Taste and See Marriage

Marriage is a good thing. It is a good idea. It is a God idea. Please give me a chance to introduce a different approach to marriage. We are in the twenty-first century, and despite the challenges of the times, we can still grow stronger in our marriages. Every marriage is unique just as every human is. We all know that no two fingerprints are the same, and even these days the iris is another distinguishable feature that we reckon is different for everyone. As a result, we cannot paint every marriage with the same brush or rules of engagement.  I know your marriage can be better. I know you can grow stronger only if you want to. It takes a bit of work here and a bit of adjustment there, and you will see the difference in no time.  It is important to note that I am a Christian in a heterosexual relationship/marriage and this piece is all to do with marriages in this sphere and no other.  I hope that if I can reach even one person, making their marriage better for them, wit...

💗  Love Many people use the word ' Love', and they believe they are making a valuable expression of emotion, which is good, but what are you trying to say? The Oxford English dictionary defines Love, first and foremost, as an intense feeling of deep affection. But no matter the definition given in the English language, it does not do it justice in expressing the intentions of the three most important words in marriage " I Love You". The Greeks language attempts to help in giving a good definition by exposing the intentions of the speaker, and I hope this would go a long way to providing a better understanding of what we mean when we say I love you. Agape means sacrificial love, referring to a decision to give without any expectation of reward, compensation, or payment, in other words, more like charity. This Love is the kind of Love that God has for his people when it says in John 3:16; for God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son... Storge means ...

I love Marriage and want you to have a great one.  When going into marriage, it is useful to have an anchor. As a Christian, if we're going to have a marriage that works, we have to go back to the source and initiator of marriage. The word of God, the  bible,  gives God all the credit, saying "He did not want man to be alone". It also says that He made him(man) a helper comparable to him, suitable for him. Indeed, before you got married, I am sure you thought so too, don't worry, she is still the same person. If there are problems right now in your relationship, get your spouse to the table and ask her if she wants this union to flourish and ask her to go on this journey with you giving it another chance. If you are in a good place, you can get even better. If you are not married, then you are learning some fundamentals that will give you a good chance of a good marriage. I love the way the bible introduces creation, "saying that God made man out of t...

Jesus said, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and all your mind, and Love your neighbour as yourself". This quote from Jesus is the ultimate order of love. If Adam initially did not put Eve before God, he would not have eaten the fruit. If Eve understood that loving God meant keeping to the instructions given no matter what it looks like, then she would have shunned the serpent. It is a lesson that is important, put God first. This rule does not apply to men only but the ladies, you are critical in giving your man the right perspective to face the world, knowing he is right with God. Then comes, love your neighbour as yourself. For those aspiring or about to get married, what is your motive? Money or wealth? Royalty? Class? Beauty, figure, build, physical attributes? Food? Ego or pride? Hope to convert or change your spouse? e.t.c These things will fail; wealth can vanish, people can dethrone royalty; a perceived class is vanity, and ...

  One thing I always advise newlyweds is to write down all the things that they feel they did to attract their spouse and if they were the things that truly endeared the couple to one another, it could keep the relationship fresh always if maintained. Physical things stimulate most men. A man is more visual than a woman, the emphasis on more, he looks to a woman's cleanliness, figure, welcoming greeting, a look of admiration, and in a few cases, words. Women, on the other hand, need affection, affirmation, gifts, helps with chores, protection, provision, a listening ear rather than a solution seeker sometimes, a generous lover,  Words, words, words. We need to endeavour to understand the love language of our spouse, I know, I have not touched anything close to what is essential to all the ladies, every marriage is different, every bodys' love language is different to the other, don't guess, ask your spouse and work on providing it, where possible. The word of Go...

Are you tempted to complain about your spouse? Who do you think you are complaining to? What are your intentions in telling this person about your personal affairs? Many people think that it is good to air your woes about your relationship with someone to feel better. Some believe that if they complain enough about their spouse, the listener will feel sorry for him/her. This leads to emotional cheating and you are only putting yourself down as you are one (and the two shall be one....in the marriage vows). Please don't. Especially if you are doing so with a listener who is of the opposite sex, don't. You are cheating emotionally by sharing intimate issues that belong to you, your spouse, and God. Let's go back to the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 ( Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoic...

Do you think as a young man or young woman you know what it takes to be ready for marriage? Do you want someone to complete you? Do you have criteria for who you want to marry? These are very different questions we have to answer before we get married. Firstly, no one knows what it takes for two to become one but the one who made us, God, it's not about sex. Sex is shared only when there is a real commitment; otherwise, we open the door to hurt. Both parties need to know one another, what is his/her character. Who is his/ her mentor? What does he/ she understand about marriage? Likes, dislikes, compromises, strengths, weaknesses, and so on. Secondly, no one can complete you. We all need something fulfilled in our relationship and it is different for everyone. Most men crave sex; most women crave affection, attention, protection, provision, vision, leadership, sex, words of affirmation, communication, e. t c. Please I repeat most, not all and some people are happy to be ...

Proverbs 5:15-23 -  Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman, or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman? For the LORD sees clearly what a man does, examining every path he takes. An evil man is held captive by his own sins; they are ropes that catch and hold him. He will die for lack of self-control; he will be lost because of his great foolishness. These are the words of Solomon in the Bible, which sums it up quite nicely. Love your wife and adore her body and soul. She will not look the same forever neither would you. Decide to love your spouse no ...

I indeed have, in the previous blogs, said that marriage is between Man, woman and God only, but that doesn't mean that we should not be courteous to relatives, in-laws, Pastors, friends and others who have dealings with our spouse. Jesus says to all of us, Love your neighbour as yourself. Look at the example of Esau who's wives in one Bible translation says they made life miserable for Isaac and Rebekah, in another, "were a grief of mind unto Isaac and Rebekah". Is it any wonder that Rebekah favoured Jacob over his brother Esau in scheming to get the inheritance which was supposed to be Esau's. Excellent positive communication helps to avoid disputes with the extended family. I had made mistakes in the past when I said something to my family, which was untrue, and it sounded like I was pointing my finger at my wife, which was not my intention. What have you said to your relatives without thinking about it, and they now hate your spouse. Be very consci...

I often wonder how most of the older generation get it together, or some cultures have marriages that last till death do them part and maybe beyond. In our eyes, they don't seem to be in the right relationship, perhaps because we see the dad come home and sits on his butt while the lady of the house works around him. On the other spectrum, I see women in politics who spend many hours working their careers and have supportive husbands. Doctors and nurses have constant pressure on them from their jobs, yet married to people who come to terms with their careers or have similar professions. I will repeat, " every marriage is different ", and no two couples have the same set of agreement or modus operandi. For two to walk together, they must communicate and agree; the question is in the Bible, " can two walk together unless they agree".  If you see a couple working marriage in their way, please don't interfere. If they are happy and one gets more from...