Concentrate on your job

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One thing I always advise newlyweds is to write down all the things that they feel they did to attract their spouse and if they were the things that truly endeared the couple to one another, it could keep the relationship fresh always if maintained.

Physical things stimulate most men. A man is more visual than a woman, the emphasis on more, he looks to a woman's cleanliness, figure, welcoming greeting, a look of admiration, and in a few cases, words.

Women, on the other hand, need affection, affirmation, gifts, helps with chores, protection, provision, a listening ear rather than a solution seeker sometimes, a generous lover,  Words, words, words. We need to endeavour to understand the love language of our spouse, I know, I have not touched anything close to what is essential to all the ladies, every marriage is different, every bodys' love language is different to the other, don't guess, ask your spouse and work on providing it, where possible.

The word of God, the Bible, in Ephesians 5:20-31 tells us the responsibility of each individual in the marriage; at this point, I want to Stress, CONCENTRATE ON YOUR JOB. That means, if the bible talks about what a woman could do, men don't record it; likewise, women look only at those things that concern your duty, your attitude, and so on. Also, please take it in the context of the times and cultures of the times. The language and times of the bible are different; nevertheless, there are principles in the bible that are timeless. When Sarah called Abraham Lord, it was first and foremost because she revered him for his intimate and direct communication with Almighty God. Don't expect your Spouse to call you Lord until she sees you in conversation with the Almighty himself or she comes to believe you have earned it.

Don't remind your spouse what the bible says about his/her responsibility. Concentrate on understanding what Gods' perfect will is for you in marriage and do your bit without requiring a response in kind. If he/she fails, remember you should aspire to love with the God kind of love(Agape). In your private prayer time, pray for your spouse, trusting God to move him/her the right way, and don't imagine that if you are the problem, God will change him/her, He will help you work on yourself. Remember that a family that prays together stays together, so pray as a family. Men pray over your family, pray for your wife, not against her, for her, likewise ladies.

It is crucial for those who are not married yet, to pray for the prospective spouse and pray for God to open your eyes to see the right person and miss all the wrong choices, yet it is your responsibility to find out who you are getting close to, without letting emotions blind you.

Marriage is good; it is a God idea.


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