Culture vs truth

I often wonder how most of the older generation get it together, or some cultures have marriages that last till death do them part and maybe beyond. In our eyes, they don't seem to be in the right relationship, perhaps because we see the dad come home and sits on his butt while the lady of the house works around him.

On the other spectrum, I see women in politics who spend many hours working their careers and have supportive husbands. Doctors and nurses have constant pressure on them from their jobs, yet married to people who come to terms with their careers or have similar professions.

I will repeat, "every marriage is different", and no two couples have the same set of agreement or modus operandi. For two to walk together, they must communicate and agree; the question is in the Bible, "can two walk together unless they agree". 

If you see a couple working marriage in their way, please don't interfere. If they are happy and one gets more from the relationship than the other, let them be. It is not your job to create strife where there is peace. There is only one instance you can go to anyone's rescue if there is physical or mental abuse.

We have the word of God (Bible) to guide us if we choose to look it up and work it. God knows the nature of man and woman, and what they need to be the best they can be. The roles they play can vary. We read the virtuous woman proverbs 31:10-end and see the various activities a virtuous woman can be involved in; I said " can be" but don't force your expectations on her, she is not Superwoman. Please, she is a human being just like you, she feels pain, can tire just like you, can be frustrated just like you. Don't ask the questions like, what have you done all day. You need to look around and appreciate what she does every day, you will know if you remember to call her while at work to find out how her day is going, I am sure likewise for those whos' men are the stay-at-home Dads. 

Becoming one in marriage takes a lot of effort and doesn't happen in an instant, so don't rush it, work day by day doing your best. Remember it takes both of you. Most stay-at-home Mum already prefers to do the home front works while the husband does the outside pieces, and it works, others not so. We have to recognise that the grass is not greener outside and your marriage will not be the same as your colleagues, you are two different people with two distinct destinies and if you covet your neighbour's wife, remember the tenth commandment, Exodus 20:17. Also remember if you know that you love your neighbour as yourself, you will not need to have what he has as you love him/her as yourself to be happy for him/her.